“The most common thing I hear folk say these days when asked how they are is “Busy”.
Today’s technology was essentially designed to make things easier, give us all more “time” and yet it appears to me it has failed to do that. If anything we all seem to be way busier than we were a couple of decades ago, with seemingly never-ending to-do lists, copious emails that flood our inboxes, umpteen “notifications” by way of social media, errands to run and so it goes on. This influx of things to be attended to is often overwhelming and creates stress, for we are now living in a time where we think we need to attend to ever so much immediately.
I’ve been pondering this standard comment we all seem to be giving these days of I’m busy or you are busy. I have a huge variety of activities in my life simply because I do not do boring and mundane well at all and abhor being stuck in any sort of rut. Variety is indeed my spice in life and to have any two days spent doing exactly the same thing is my worst case scenario. Many interpret that as me being busy.
I spoke in my last article about living in NOW. Such a hard thing for so many of us to achieve and yet, once you do get the hang of it, it is very easy. As I looked back on all my years of being unconsciously busy, rushing here and there, achieving this and that, the stress that comes with always being busy and the many comments I hear of “busy” I had an epiphany of sorts. When we are fully present in right here and now “busy” is totally eliminated. How so?
Well, I saw that busyness lives in our heads and only occurs when we move out of now and think “a head” too far. Often we become overwhelmed with how much we think we need to do or must do, which in fact, we are all choosing to do for no-one is making us do anything. When we are so busy we miss the moment of now for always we are thinking I need to do this, then that, then that and on it goes, usually ticking things off either in our heads or lists as we go. Often not even fully focussed on whatever it is we are doing right now, due to thoughts of once this is done then the next thing needs to be done.
I also saw that much stress lies in the busyness of our minds and the things we choose to do that we perceive “make” us all so busy. I saw that being in the moment of now with absolutely no thought of what is next until I got to what is next, does indeed and quite miraculously not create a feeling of being busy at all. As I was pondering this whole busy aspect of life, another crossed my path who shared that we create busy to avoid being in now. Synchronicity? Well of course.
When we live in each moment of now, fully, we are just being and we are all essentially, beings, not doings. Many think we have to go and have a vacation and do absolutely nothing to avoid the stress of being busy, to wind down and “get away from it all”.
Personally I find life far more interesting, way less stress full and not at all busy, to just do the things I feel I want and need to do, when I want and need to do them. I also find that things don’t go “wrong”, I don’t hit brick walls nor do I experience any of the elements that once brought frustration, stress, major muck-ups, accidents or rushing around like a lunatic when I am just focussed on and fully present in NOW. Another miraculous aspect of living in NOW – I have more “time”.
Try it, you may just be very surprised by what happens when you stop thinking “a head” and actually become one with the flow of life.